Conversation with a friend - Part Three

This blog is a continuation of Conversation with a friend - Part One and Part Two.

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Conversation with a friend - Part Three

I was more into asking questions than answering them, so I continued, "How much of expectations do we set?". Back to Basics. "In Bio-tech we do Perl programming. A Senior guy in our office quoted 'If this is not what you expected, please alter your expectations'.", she said. I intervened, "But the catch is we are trying to deliver a product. The client (regardless of the sexes) has some EXPECTATIONS and that needs to met."

"Imagine the whole matrimony as a process", she said. Well, OK. Let's add a new dimension to it. Instead of considering the product as a thing, let us equate the matrimonial relationship to a process. For any process, we have an input and an output. Inputs are the expectations and the output is a what the reaction occur between the inputs aided by an able catalyst.

What are these catalyst? Mind (Couple's)- Thought process; Originator of the expectations asking you to stick on to your expectations no matter what OR ability to adjust your expectations - Flexible planning, Society (the people around the couple) - What are they saying? what will they say? aunty talks, granny talks. A feasible solution can be found only by adding the right amount of Catalyst- The MIND and a tinge of SOCIETY (can be avoided if not required). It is up to the couple to sort out and set the levels of expectations.

I am not expressing my view to point out the correct way or the wrong way to go about setting expectations of a couple here. Let the couple sit together and decide on what expectations of each other can be met amicably. This can happen only if there exists an open hearted conversation between the two and how reasonable they are with one another expectations.

"hmm.. This should make an interesting blog", I commented. "Yeah! Lets blog it! Kats have been asking me blog since a while." She typed. "I had a look at his too. Pretty interesting! It is just that I find it too lazy to sit an type!" I replied back...


As for the requirements of Vish's Project, it was improperly gathered and given to Vish and Eddy man realized that it was out of Vish's control. After a horrible two week session he delivered the project and it is up for testing! Peace be it!